Description
Now in paper, the book that debunks the notion that divorce has to be devastating to children. Recent books such as The Love They Lost and The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce have reinforced negative portrayals of the lifelong harmful effects of parental divorce. In contrast, Moving Beyond Your Parent’s Divorce is a refreshingly positive guide for adults whose parents divorced during their childhood. Rather than dwelling on the negatives caused by this very real disruption in their lives, Mel Krantzler, Ph.D., bestselling author of Creative Divorce, and his wife, Patricia Biondi Krantzler, offer eight guidelines for building emotional resilience and creating a new sense of achievement and motivation. The guidelines are based on the Krantzlers’ years of working with thousands of adult children of divorce (ACDs) and helping them to construct their own healthy relationships. The eight guidelines are: 1) View divorce as a normal part of life; 2) Recognize that divorced parents did not intend to cause harm; 3) Avoid blaming parents for one’s difficulties; 4) Affirm that every adult is responsible for his or her own happiness; 5) Don’t accept conventional wisdom that parental divorce is an affliction; 6) Identify the real sources of any problems and take steps to work on them; 7) Refuse to create a self-fulfilling prophecy of “victimhood”; and 8) Learn to seek constructive solutions to problems rather than wallowing. Moving Beyond Your Parent’s Divorce is a groundbreaking book that provides readers with the tools to use their parents’ divorce as learning experiences to improve their own lives rather than repeating their parents’ mistakes. It gives readers a way to leave behind a feeling of victimization and take charge of their lives.
